In the previous section we have learned that children and adolescents are more be managed by their emotions rather than rational and logical thinking. Emotions may explain why children and young people behave that way, including self-destructive behavior. So if we want to motivate them we should understand the emotions that control them, and use it to guide the behavior and thinking are more deceptive.
The need to feel safe
One of the strongest needs of a child needs is a sense of security. Secure in themselves and their environment. Adolescents to seek security by joining a bunch of their peers, engage social rules among them, and imitate his behavior.
Physical violence
I think not to say, this is already a lot of us met in the newspapers and television news, and the danger or the consequences we often encounter in the media. If there is no safety in the home, then a child will seek shelter to meet their security in all the wrong places. And the child will do anything to get a sense of security, looking for attention the wrong way.
The need to control himself
Like a child’s growth, while the search for identity and independence while learning to build from the parent. This process creates an emotional need to be free and independent. They do not feel comfortable talking to listen to parents. Listening to the advice of their parents as if treated like a child.
Take advantage of this information recognize the emotional needs of our children. Be sensitive where as a child needs acceptance, the need to control things, as well as the need to secure. Use words that are appropriate to meet those needs.